Little reader review with a Little Reader Giveaway

Hi Everyone,

I have been waiting with baited breathe to do a review on Little Reader for a long time and its even better now I have semester 1 to give away.

If you have been interested in teaching your baby to read and have felt overwhelmed by all the information or wondering where to start or even if you work outside the home than this is a great product to help you teach your baby to read. I have been using Little Reader (LR) now for two years. I first used it with my eldest daughter now 3 (yes she is reading) and I am now using it with my second daughter who is almost 10months. Both my DD's have really enjoyed learning from this computer based program and it has certainly been a stress reliever for me having an already ready curriculum to go, especially as I was working part time 3 days a week when I started this program with my eldest daughter. As it was already prepared I would show her one session in the morning before I went to work and Miss S went to day care and another in the evening when I got home from work.I found it a great thing to share with my eldest daughter she would sit on my lap and I would show her the words and the videos and we would giggle and do the actions together.


So I will do a Pros's and Con's List.

•  It has a year curriculum already made so there is nothing to stress about. All you have to do is press play twice a day
• It is convenient. Just take your laptop anywhere and the lessons go with you. If you go on holiday your child's lessons don't need to stop.
• It has a printer function so you can print the words and stick them up around the house or if you just wanted to show your child some tangible flashcards.
• The lessons are customisable. You can put your own voice over the words or make your own presentations which include pictures of family. 
• There is a UK English version as well as a US English version. So you can change it to suit the English your region of the world uses.
• There is a support team to help you if you have any problems getting LR to run.
• Simplified and Traditional Chinese is available and you can purchase that if want to expose your child to another language.
• Great for Mummy/Mommy's or Daddy's who work and do not have the time to make flashcards. 
• A description of each word is shown so your child has a full understanding of what each word means. For example The word Jump with an arrow running under the word from left to right to show which way the word goes. Than a picture of someone jumping and then there is a video of a person jumping up and down.
• Pattern Phonics which flashes family of words cat, hat, mat, van, pan can. So children understand that the words are made up of similar sounds. Also helps with being able to sound out new words latter on.Here is a you tube video of baby Nim reading at 16months  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PRdQCsPvxco
• You can get a free 14 day trial and see if Little Reader is for you and your family by clicking on the Little Reader icon on the top right hand side Bar

Cons

• Mine has been a little prone to crashing but it is all fixed now
• Other than that there really aren't any

Now if you are interested in winning a 6 month Little Reader curriculum here is what you need to do

•  Comment on this blog and tell me in 25 words or less why you would like Little Reader to teach your babies to read.

•  Follow me on my blog.

Conditions of entry.

• You can not already own Little Reader.
• Any spam comments will be automatically disqualified from the competition and deleted
• Entries that are received from today 1/10/11 to midnight (Australian EST time) on the 14/10/11 are valid.
• The winner has met the above criteria.
• winner will be drawn on the 17/10/11 and notified via Blogger messenger. 

Kimba


Disclaimer: I was given a free copy of Little Reader basic 6 months curriculum to giveaway in exchange for my honest review.

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More 'simple' baking

Hi everyone,


Since my last simple baking blog Miss S and I have decided to do some more baking and food preparation since she really enjoys it. Miss S like to tell me what a "Big Girl" she is so here is some of the baking and salad making we have done. I borrowed a children's cook book from the library called 'I can cook' and we made the Pizza Snake which was easy recipe for Miss S to follow but it does need parent help



 Sorry, that there are no pictures of the actual dough making my camera went flat and I had a very excited daughter not willing to wait for the camera to charge.

Cleaning up after the dough was made

Preparing the cheese slices for the 'snake'

When teaching a child how to use a knife make sure you teach them to hold the knife correctly.

Keep fingers out the way

and cut. I know how many of you are freaking out about Miss S using a 'real' knife. Teach them correctly and only let them use it under supervision. Miss S has excellent control of the knife and she is willing to listen to instruction. If your child is not willing to listen to instruction than do not teach them how to use a sharp knife

Preparing the tray to for the 'Pizza Snake'

Baking Tray is ready

Rolling the dough into a snake

Dough now rolled into a snake

Pizza Snake now ready for sauce

Being decorated with cheese

More cheese

Now olives but you can make your own toppings

Ready for the oven

Cleaning up the mess. It is very important in a Montessori school a child cleans up after herself so I have the same rule at home to keep up with the consistency of home and school.

The Final product

MMM delicious and very proud of her creation

Miss A enjoying her sister's cooking

 This was a lot of fun. Miss S and I had a great time.

Would you like the recipe?   Here it is
1 egg
1 Tablespoon of Olive Oil
2 teaspoons of easy blend yeast
200g or 8oz of Plain flour or Wholemeal (I used wholemeal)
1 teaspoon of salt
120mls or 4fl oz hot water
Black olives
Cheese Squares
1 teaspoon of dried oregano or basil
Green pepper for the tongue
5 tablespoons of chopped tin tomatoes (I used pizza paste to make life easier for my 3 year old)

Method

1. Mix the flour, salt and yeast in a large bowl.
2. Mix in the egg, oil, and hot water to make dough
3. Knead the dough for 5 minutes
4. Leave dough covered in a warm place for an hour
5. Preheat oven to 190C/375F/gas mark 5 and prepare baking tin with baking paper
6. Roll dough into snake
7. Curl the snake on a baking sheet. Add tomatoes, herbs and cheese or any other toppings your children may like
8. Bake for 15 to 20 minutes Then add olives and the green pepper tongue.
9. Bon Appetite

Punished By Rewards

Hi Everyone,

I am reading a book at the moment written by a lady called Angeline Stoll Lillard called
Montessori, The Science behind the Genius. Which even though it is an academic read (and I am taking a very long time to get through it) It covers some interesting points about Montessori education.

One of the chapters in this book covers why Montessori does not use grades or rewards as part of her educational structure. It is very interesting that in her findings that she found children did not learn as well with grades or rewards as the children who were given the grades and the reward.

As a person who went through the traditional school system with grades and worked hard to make good grades I found this intriguing to see that it was more of a demotivater than a motivator. Since Montessori observed this in children and it was not backed up by a study at the time children this book looks at the recent studies on children who were rewarded by grades or a prize to children who were given nothing as a reward for doing the work. The interesting thing was the children who were given the reward when retested actually recalled less than than the children who were given nothing. The children who had the reward had learnt something enough to pass the test and get the reward. They had  what the psychologist refer to as 'surface learning' they later retested both groups of children and the children given the reward were not able to recall the same amount as the children who were given nothing. The children who were given nothing remembered a lot more of the subject matter and were also more motivated to go and learn more about the subject than the children given the reward.

In my own experience as a person who was traditionally schooled I was very motivated to get good grades and do the 'right thing' but as for my learning when I ask myself what I learnt at school I will be honest I have very little recollection of learning at school and I can still recall subject matter today of the subjects I enjoyed learning which was year 11 and 12 when I got to choose the subjects myself. I do remember cramming for tests because I wanted to pass and get a good grade but I would then completely forget the subject just learnt and start cramming for the next.

With my own daughter I have done sticker charts and rewards and it works for a short time and than I have to change what I do so she is continually motivated. When my DD first started toilet training I used a sticker chart with rewards along the way ans it worked great and she was going to the toilet all the time than as the sticker chart and the rewards came to an end she stopped going to the toilet when she realised there was no longer a reward in it for her. She has since gone back into nappies and flatly refuses to toilet train (Much to my disgust) because I have told her there is no more rewards and she wants something each time she goes tot the toilet. So rewards certainly don't work with her :(.

What is your experience with rewards for yourself and your children and do you use them with your children? Let me know what your thoughts are.


Kimba

Simple Baking

Hi,

Yesterday Miss 3 and I did some baking. I'm starting to do more practical life things with Miss S. Since turning 3 she seems far more interested in doing things for herself so I have decided that now she is wants to cook I am incorporating that into her day.


I found a really good recipe that most 3 year olds could easily follow with minimal parental supervision. When I say minimal parental supervision means I am still in the kitchen with her but I can be feeding my DD2 and not having to stand over Miss S to make sure she is following all the directions and I am there if she needs help.

 The recipe came from an excellent blog called How we Montessori (click on the link for the recipe) I used this with Miss 3 and she found it really easy to follow. Here are some photos

With all the ingredients ready to go

Cutting the banana with a child friendly knife. Bananas are a great fruit to use to introduce the knife and for cutting

Mixing the batter

Putting batter into pan she is using a measurement cup to 'spoon' the batter in with. I find these really good for little hands

"I want to bake"

A Montessori child always cleans up after herself

Doing the dishes

The Final product. Banana and Honey Muffins (YUM)

 I hope that this helps you to go and get baking in your kitchen.

Kimba.

Art, Art its everywhere

Hi everyone,

The more and more I read about early education and learning the more and more I want to incorporate into my day. It is one of those things with so much to do and such little time to do it in. Today I will talk about the art project I did today with my eldest child. This was taken from the Pre-School book from Artistic Pursuits.


Today's art project was to collect things from nature or backyard and then talk about the different textures and patterns they make by rolling them over play dough. This is a great little project because it takes 10minutes to collect a few things from the backyard and we all have play dough and if you don't I will include a recipe at the bottom of this blog.

1. Collect 'nature things' from your back yard or park. (Here is a photo of Miss S collecting nature from our back yard)

Sophia collecting nature things from our back yard

Her basket of Treasures

What we collected

2.  Get out your play dough and start pressing.

Miss S experimenting with the different material

Miss S feeling the different patterns that nature makes

3. Talk and ask questions about what they notice. How does the bark feel rough or smooth? Are the gum nuts soft or hard. What sort of pattern does the gum nut make? How does the tree pattern feel? Simple questions and build upon them. Get them noticing more about the things around them. Get them observing more of the world around them.

Since starting these little art projects with my kiddies I am certainly appreciating the world around me a lot more . I hope these projects inspire you and your little ones to get out more into your yard or park and start looking for your next 'art project'

Until next time. Here is the play dough recipe
Kimba

The Montessori Book that started it all.

Hi,

When I first became pregnant with my eldest child I was looking around for books on how to raise a child. As I had become very interested in Montessori I happened to stumble across this book when I was waiting to meet a friend.


The book is "How to raise an Amazing Child" The Montessori Way by Tim Seldin. Tim Seldin is the president of the Montessori Association in the UK but don't let that stop you from looking at this book. It has many practical ways that you as a parent can introduce Montessori ways into your home without a massive disruption to your lifestyle. It is also an excellent introduction to Montessori and what a Montessori education is all about and what to look for in a good Montessori school. Which I believe is very important.

This book covers everything from how to set up a playroom, to helping children become independent to how to discipline. I love especially how it goes about teaching children to be helpful around the house and be included in the chores without being paid to do them.

The book is simple and filled with beautiful pictures so you can see how you can bring Montessori into your home in very practical ways that don't break the bank.

Kimba

Artisitic Pursuits! "Teaching" Art to little ones

Hi Everyone,

I don't know about you but I have never ever come across a child who does not like "getting creative." I recently purchased a book for parents about teaching art to kids. It is written by a lady called Brenda Ellis from Artistic Pursuits. It is an excellent resource to have in your little learner library as I like to call it. The activities are easy to do and even allow the young and old to join in. The activities are adjustable to suit age ranges. The book is aimed at Pre-School children ages 3-5 but I have been able to adjust some of the activities so my 9 month old can join in to. The book is easy to read and certainly allows you to appreciate the 'art' your children make but what I love the most about this book is how it gets you talking with your little ones about the world around you and makes you notice the depth of colour in nature, and picking things up and talking about the texture, the material, the colour and noticing the beauty outside in our back yard
.
Here are a few photos of some of the projects we have been doing.

This above picture entitled by my daughter "Silver Storm." It is Miss S's interpretation of the sky from Project no 2 in this book.  As you can see my dd has drawn a big silver cloud, The blue lines are rain drops, the pink, yellow and brown lines are 'lightning'. The Project is about observing the sky and talking about what we see and drawing it on paper. Although yesterday when this picture was created was a beautiful sun shine filled day my little dd wanted to talk about storms. So I said "what does the sky look like when there is a Storm coming?" and she talked about what the sky looked like as she drew. It was a lovely moment sharing together as I watched her create this. I also let go of the fact and shut my mouth when she drew pink lightning. Pink must be included in everything its her favourite colour. :)


Although it was not a proper observation of the sky as the book says the process of creation is far more important than the end result. This was the image in her mind about how the sky looked in a storm not mine and therefore Miss S's creation. What was the most important thing here was Miss S was creating something from her imagination and we were enjoying a moment together but all the talking about what we saw in the sky has already led her to notice other things in nature and want to 'draw' them. I believe the goal of this project is to take notice of what is around you.

The next project we did was one called "Mark Making" I adjusted this project so my youngest DD  who is 9 months could join in to. I have put cling wrap over the table, then added my finger paint, than added another layer of cling wrap and stuck it down with tape. This way I avoided dirty hands and the worry of my youngest dd putting the paint in her mouth. This way both my DD's could have the fun of finger painting and still make pictures without the mess.

This way also allows your kids to make "pictures' but it also gives the opportunity to teach about primary and secondary colours. In the above pictures you can see Miss S 'mooshing' blue and red together to make purple. Also you can see she has had a great time putting her hand prints everywhere.

 I hope this post has gotten you all inspired to start some 'art' projects with your little ones. Feel free to ask questions or post comments below.

Kimba

What I have been up to.

Hello everyone,


Sorry for the hiatus lately. Been really busy, my eldest Daughter is about to start at a Montessori school and has not taken as well to it as I thought she would. She is beginning to settle down now but I think the transition from a daycare environment to a Montessori environment has been a little harder on her than I thought it would be.

The reason why I think it has been harder on her is a Day-care environment is  more chaotic than a Montessori environment which is a very orderly and quiet environment. I think the transition from those two environments and what is expected of her in each one has been confusing. This has surprised me quite a bit as I thought she would have been really excited to go to Montessori and found it an easy transition but to my surprise it has not been that easy for her and my patience either.

Miss S is improving with each visit and starting to really enjoy being in the Montessori environment. She is far more tired after 3 hours of Montessori than she is of 10 hours of day care. A Montessori environment has a tremendous amount of things to do compared to day-care and I think to begin with the choice has overwhelmed her, even though the choice is limited the "work" as they call it in Montessori is very engaging and requires the child's full attention as Day-care does not.

I have actually been quite worried that our decision to send Miss S to a Montessori has been the right one. It is hard to say if this is the "right' choice for Miss S. My concerns have been about her settling in and making friends as she as a wonderful group of friends at day-care and I was not wanting to split her up from them, then my husband reminded me that when she goes to school that she will not be going to school with any of her friends from daycare any way. So I am only prolonging the inevitable. The other issue I have is that the Montessori school ask that children be toilet trained. My child the little darling that she is flatly refuses to go to the toilet. This has played on my mind quite a bit and I have been wondering if she is using the toilet as a delay tactic so she does not have to go. It is not a case of I cant go to the toilet it is a case of I wont go to the toilet.  Everybody tells me she wont do it forever but I'm beginning to think she will.

Just a ramble tonight. Trying to get all my worries together, Sorry if this post makes no sense.
Kimba

My Journey teaching my almost 3 year old to read. Part 2

Welcome back fellow readers.


Posting on from last night, Besides from DVDs I also made my own books and I made some of my own word cards and hung them around my house explaining what each object was. I took them down each time people came over so people were not aware of what I was doing. You could say I was in the early learning closet and that is because I did not want Miss S being made to 'perform' for others and I did not want to be bombarded with questions from other parents as to 'why' I was doing this. Also I was skeptical myself so I was quietly keeping the results to myself to as I was unsure to believe them or not.


Okay so why post words all over your house. Well I wanted to increase Miss S's vocabulary but I also wanted her to be immersed in learning to read so to speak. I wanted written words to be a part of her everyday life. As I walked by a word each time I would just run my finger under it from left to right (So Miss S knew which way the word went) and said the word aloud. Within a month she knew all the words around the house and she was approx 8 months old. By this time Miss S knew approx 300 words. (I knew by asking her to pick say the word cat out of 5 cards and she was able to. I discovered the words she knew through a process of elimination) and I don't say these things to brag about my daughter. I say this because I believe ALL young children have the capability to learn to read given the opportunity, and to prove to you all that any child can learn and I hope through some of the methods I have used you can find a way to suit you to and begin the journey.


Around the time my Daughter turned about 8 months old I returned to work 3 days a week. So some learning had to be done in the mornings before work and after work not just when it suited me through out the day. I also used the time I had at work in my breaks to create the books. They were very simple books which I made to bring her reading together while Miss S knew lots and lots of single words we needed to build her reading stamina to couplets and then on to phrases and sentences. This part actually took a lot of time and I went a bit backwards because at this time I introduced Little Reader another reading programme but more on that tomorrow night. Back to the books. All I did was by a blank spiral book A4 size and on every second page I wrote a couplet. For Example White Hair, Brown Bear, Tall Tree. etc etc. and once to twice a day (on my days off and weekends) we would go through it. I also wrote up more word cards and made up colours and I would sit on the floor with her and made a couplet game. I would get a colour card. A card with Red written in red and Green written in green and pair it with a noun card gloves, shoes, chair and put the words together. For example I would put green hair together and go in a silly voice that's silly people don't have green hair but people can have brown hair and change the card from green to brown while I ran my finger from left to right. under the card.

Now my biggest problem here was that I was not consistent. I did not show my DD the book regularly enough as well as the cards, but it was still a fun game to play and my dd still learnt something it just took longer because I didn't dedicate myself to a regular routine with Miss S. As in one of my earlier posts consistency is king. As I had returned to work I found I was not in the mood to always play games and after daycare Miss S was tired so it didn't always work, but she did enjoy playing the game on my days off and on the weekends.

Onto Part 3 tomorrow night Little Reader.


Happy Teaching
Kimba

My Journey teaching my almost 3 year old to read. Part 1

Hi Everyone,

Before I get into how I taught my child to read, I would first like to point out that my child is not gifted nor has she ever been assessed by a professional and given the label 'gifted'. Miss S has been taught to read through a process which I am now doing currently with my youngest daughter. I have also taught her other things like maths, which is for another blog. What I am hoping to do is to DISPEL THE MYTH That children before the age of 5 can not be taught to read.


I first started with Miss S when she was 3 months old. We started with a program called Your Baby can Read. (Which I will now refer to as YBCR) We followed this program methodically doing exactly 8 weeks of each DVD plus I did all the flashcards and books that came with the program. By 6 months Miss S could differentiate between approximately 20 words. By the end of the programme she knew all the words and what they meant.You could hold up the card 'mouth' and she would open her mouth. Hold up another card like point and she would point. You get the picture. By the end of the programme S knew all the words (approx 150-200).

I thought YBCR was and is a great programme I also felt that this programme was not enough and as Miss S was 10 months old when we completed the programme I felt she needed something more as YBCR covers a lot of single words it does not go into couplets e.g (White hair, blue bricks) to building into phrases e.g (I'm standing up) to sentences. Please also note that I also introduced in this time Baby signing time which she learnt to read all the words off those DVD's to. I taught my DD1 Sign Language (ASL) as she was pre-verbal it was how I knew that she knew what words she was reading and she could sign what they meant.

At this point it is where most 'well meaning' people say it is not reading it is only memorisation if the child can not phonetically sound out a word it is not reading. The definition of reading and this is from The Free Dictionary is as follows

1. To examine and grasp the meaning of (written or printed characters, words, or sentences).

2. To utter or render aloud (written or printed material): read poems to the students.

3. To have the ability to examine and grasp the meaning of (written or printed material in a given language or notation):

As you can see the definition of reading does not say you must be able to phonetically sound the word out all it states is that you are able to examine the word and understand what it means. I do not knock the teaching of phonics I do believe it certainly helps in teaching an older child to read whether it is necessary or not in the teaching of a child under the age of 3 is still up for debate. Why? you may ask when we were taught to read through strong phonic instruction is because if you show an under three approximately 200-500 words and their meanings a lot of those children intuit the phonic rules without formal instruction but not all. The child is able to sound out the word without hours of  formal instruction.

I will discuss the next thing I did tomorrow night in Part 2.


Happy Teaching
Kimbaxx

Mum's we deserve more!!

Today I thought that I would vent about something that seems to be something that is highly dismissed by society as an important job and that is the job of MOTHERHOOD.

Motherhood is the most important task many women undertake for the love of their children to make sure they grow into well-respected, contributing happy human beings of society. Yet it is the most undervalued and the least respected of all the jobs that could be done. It seems lately that unless you are in the paid workforce (and are of working age) you are not a valued member of society. The other thing I notice is when those children act up the first person blamed is usually the mother too.

Mothers are the back bone to any culture. Our unconditional love for our children means their survival and this is not just seen in humans this is seen in the animal kingdom to. You only have to watch a documentary on animals to see what they do to protect their young. Without mother's we as a society would wither and die.

I believe that it is time that mother's got what they deserve which is recognition for what we do. It is hard, hard yakka. Any mum out there who has had to try and get their two year old to go to the toilet, or has been woken from a sleep because their little one has had a night mare and at 3am you are checking under the bed and all the cupboards just to reassure that child that their really are no monsters and then to only be woken 3 hours later by the same child now fully refreshed and eager to start the day and you have to drag yourself out of bed and you have to be ready to go when you feel like a train has hit you, and there is no time before you here Mum, mum, mum, mum, mum, mum, and you haven't even had a sip of your tea or coffee. Is true love, 

Before I had children, I can tell you I thought parenting was the most piss easy job in the world. All you have to do is feed them, clothe them, keep them clean, make sure they know that they are loved. Hugs and cuddles and bed time stories and that pretty much sums it up. I now know better. I work harder now than I have ever done in any of the paid jobs I have had. It is tiring some days you will do nothing but discipline all day. Other days can be listening to constant whining ad some days are just absolutely marvellous and it wipes out all those bad days. Some days it takes all of your strength not to shut yourself in your wardrobe and hide there until your significant other comes home. In saying all of this the rewards are endless and better than any bonus you could ever receive from work.


I think it is time we challenged the stereotype of Motherhood. We certainly don't sit on our arse's all day while our children play on the floor. We are the one's their for all the scraped knees, doing the hard yards with discipline, looking at the best schools for our children online. Preparing their food and drink, reading every parenting book on the market to constantly improve ourselves as parents. Reading our children their favourite story 20 times a day. Playing pretend, cooking cakes. Vacuuming, washing, mopping, doing dishes and grocery shopping. We do it all with a smile on our faces and while sometimes dragging our feet. We are also the first to sacrifice whatever our needs are so our children can have better.

We deserve thanks for what we do! I salute all you mothers out there doing the hard yards and even if your children never thank you. I do. Thank you for loving your children and making them decent human beings for society. Thank you for all of the sacrifices you make, the sleep ins you give up for Saturday morning sport or dance. The times you find it so hard to discipline your child and you are taking them to the naughty corner for the 20th time that day. You are a hero.


Kimba

My review of Monkisee ACTION WORDS dvd.

I was recently sent the Monkisee Action Words DVD to review.(http://www.monkisee.com) I have to say it was a really good DVD. I gage this on how well my 2 DD Miss S almost 3 and Miss A almost 7 months interacted with the DVD. I will write my review with dot points because it is easy to read and allows us already time poor parents to make quick decisions.

PROS

• 30 words on the DVD are covered which is excellent, approx a word per minute
• Kids are asked to participate immediately by doing the action. Great for Miss S and I can help the younger one
• The word is shown in 3 different ways. So the child can see how each word is used in our daily lives.
• 3 words are shown at a time than each word is explained individually.
• Each word is shown in large red letters and an arrow comes across the screen from left to right to show which way we read the word.
• A catchy song is played at the end of each segment and the words appear again and the word meaning is acted out. So the child watching sees the word and puts the meaning of the word together.
• The puppets add a fun touch. I was never a fan to begin with but after watching both my DD's engage with the DVD. I felt they engaged more because of the puppets and participated more in the dvd because the puppet asked them to. My youngest DD watched the dvd glued and its hard to make her watch anything my eldest DD giggled and laughed and did all the actions the monkey's did.

CONS

• There really aren't any it's more improvements that could be made.
• The sound is a bit tinny and could do with a slight adjustment. The Host Olivia sounded to me a bit echoie at times.
• And that is it.

So in my humble opinion when it comes down to it all the question I ask my self is this. How much bang for my buck am I getting? For $19.95, this DVD is well worth being part of your Early Educational Library. It is fun and interactive. It gets the kids up moving, so its good for a rainy day or snowy day, depending where you live. I rate this DVD a 9/10 This is very good considering there is a lot of stuff on the market touted as 'educational' when it is not and this is very educational at all.

Happy Teaching Parents and Caregivers
Kimba xx

A great TED talk about how education kills creativity!!!! Something to think about

http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/ken_robinson_says_schools_kill_creativity.html

A very interesting talk. well worth the 20minutes. Is the arts still important to you?


Kimba

Does social media stop us from being good parents??????

I have been recently thinking a lot lately about the impact technology has on our lives especially with children. I was watching extreme parenting with Super Nanny Jo Frost and she was conducting a sleep experiment. The children in the first week were allowed to stay up as late as they liked and in the second week they had to go to bed at 7:30.

It was the second week that had me intrigued. All the electronic devices were removed form the bedroom so they had nothing to keep them awake and all they could do was go to sleep. They were not even allowed to play with them once they got home from school. What I found interesting was the amount of electronic devices these kids had. Mobile phones, laptops, wiis, PS2, ipods or mp3 players. These kids spent more time on these devices than they did with their own families.

So that led me to my next thought. Are we using all these devices so we do not have to engage with our own children? So they are babysat in some way.? I understand the world we live in is very digital but are we teaching our kids to never have a real relationship unless it is with some device as a medium? Are we so distracted in our own lives and by the internet that we can no longer really engage with them any more either?

As the children were no longer allowed to play with these devices. The families began spending more time together. The board games came out, books came out, homework was done, and funnily enough the families all said how nice it was to play with their children and engage with them rather than them locking themselves away in their rooms playing the computer or texting friends or both.

I know I am guilty of this. I know how often I am facebook throughout the day. Seeing what everyone else is up to, using it to engage with other people. Checking my emails constantly to see if anyone has commented on my status update. Checking my husband's twitter page and seeing where he is at or how far away he is from home. Conversing with him on twitter. The list goes on. I find I’m almost need to constantly check it and if one of my children need me or come to ask me something I’m like wait I’m on facebook instead of really making her important I make the internet important. I'm almost annoyed if I am interrupted and writing this down does not make me very proud as a parent but if im honest enough I don't think I am the only parent who does this in some shape or form.

So do we as a western culture allow these devices to come into our lives because we are bored and addicted. We want to engage with everyone and feel like we are important to someone but not to the people we should be important to? Are my kids learning from me that social media is far more important. Engaging with a screen all the time. Please don't get me wrong I am not against social media at all or using technology or the TV to teach my child but when I am using the devices as a form of escapement and entertainment rather than doing what I should be doing or brushing them aside to finish a facebook status or checking my email and not engaging with the kids as I should I wonder where you draw the line? When is it an addiction to escape boredom? Are our children learning to be addicts because that's what they have been taught as kids. Do we as a western culture find it hard to be in the present moment and therefore don't want to engage or can't engage because we have forgotten how to socialise? I think it is hard all the time to engage with our kids. They are in the present moment playing pretend, dressing up or playing with a toy. I find it hard at times to engage with her and 'play pretend' in fact if I was honest I don't do pretend play very well. I am happy to watch pretend play but I don't like participating (even though sometimes I do) and the play is not very mentally stimulating to me, which makes it even harder to do but there are times when I try to engage with her and yet at the back of my mind I’m thinking must check my facebook page or send an email so it is not real time with me because I am distracted.

I know as a stay-at-home-mum that sometimes the only other adult you will speak to is your significant other for the whole day and I understand what facebook and twitter are to a SAHM a life line in many respects. It allows you to engage with other's have an adult conversation without leaving the house but if we are constantly on facebook and twitter or texting we have something always gnawing for our attention and not just our children who need to know that at some point during the day when your little beep on your phone goes off that you are not going to run and dive for it while in the middle of something with them.

Just something to think about. Please feel free to comment.

Kimba.

A letter to my sanity!

Dear Sanity,


I don't know when we last spoke, I believe it was before my husband and I made the decision to have a family. I'm sorry I did not consult you maybe it was the joy of thinking about  holding a baby in my arms, or all the fun things I would get to do with that baby as she grew older. Maybe you checked out when I fell pregnant. You were lost behind the raging hormones and tiredness maybe you just didn't feel needed by me anymore. Let me tell you dear sanity after the week I have had with both my children I am writing to you because I need you back to help me get through the rest of the week.

Please don't feel rejected, I never really rejected you I just checked out for awhile because the love you have for your kids is unconditional and can make you a little crazy, but if you were there to tell me I would have to listen to my daughter cry (for 2 hours before giving up) because she wasn't going to get a baby cino or have an argument with me about going to the toilet, I promise you I would have listened and prepared for it. If I was told my 6 month old would scream the house down because no one was in the room with her. I could have prepared for that to. If you told me my children would have the will power of 10 men combined I don't know if I would have believed you but now I am in it I want you back to help me get out of it.

Sanity, where art thou? you need to come back.

Love Kimba